Vice Ganda and Ogie Alcasid engaged in a thought-provoking discussion prompted by the personal story of former couple Iking and Ruffa during their appearance on ‘EXpecially For You’ last Wednesday.
The conversation centered on the challenges that relationships often face, particularly issues related to work commitments and the lack of quality time together. Vice Ganda shared insights into how these factors can strain relationships and potentially lead to separations.
“Alam mo iyang trabaho talaga at kawalan ng oras na magkasama, lagi iyang hamon sa relasyon e. Kaya maganda rin ‘yung ganyan na bago pa nagpapakasal, nadidiskubre na ‘yung ganiyan na hindi pala uubra sa akin na hindi kami magkasama, hindi pala uubra sa akin ‘yung ganung ugali na ‘yung ganung set-up, ‘yung ganung trial,” Vice remarked.
“Kahit na magkasama kayo sa iisang bubong,” Ogie concurred.
“Iyun ay puwedeng makapagpatatag o makasira sa relasyon ninyo e, ‘yung kawalan ng pagsasama palagi,” Vice added.
Ruffa and Iking opened up about their own struggles, recounting how physical distance and busy schedules contributed to the deterioration of their relationship.
“Napalayo po kami sa isa’t isa,” Ruffa revealed.
“You woke up one day, hindi na malalim, hindi na ganun kasarap,” Vice elaborated.
“Opo, parang nawala na lang po ‘yung pagmamahal ko sa kaniya,” Iking added, attributing his dwindling affection to being preoccupied with other responsibilities.
Ruffa shared that she initially resisted Iking’s decision to end their relationship but later attempted to salvage it.
“Hindi po ako pumayag na makipag-break sa kaniya e. Nakikipag-break po siya noon nung wala na po siyang feelings, pero hindi po ako pumayag,” Ruffa disclosed, prompting Vice to delve deeper into ethical considerations.
“Ang tanong ko, kung nawalan ka ng pagmamahal sa partner mo at gusto mong makipaghiwalay at sinabi mo sa kaniya, sinabi mong maghiwalay na kayo, does it make you a bad person? Masamang tao ka ba kung nawalan ka ng pagmamahal at masamang tao ka ba kung sinabi mo ‘yung totoo na gusto mo ng maghiwalay?” Vice pondered, inviting responses from the studio audience.
“Hindi naman po,” a member of the audience responded. “Siguro depende rin po sa ka-partner ganun, depende sa nararamdaman, depende sa ka-partner mo. Depende kasi kusang mararamdaman mo ‘yun kung wala na e. Kapag hindi mo na mahal ‘yung tao, even though pilitin mo, wala na. So kahit mabuti kang tao, tapos ganun ang mangayayari, ang gusto mo maghiwalay na lang kayo, kaysa magkasakitan kayo.”
“Parang sa teaching, honesty is the best policy. So maging honest ka lang ganun na lang,” another audience member emphasized.
