Renowned acting veteran Kakai Bautista earned her spotlight on Facebook after posting that she doesn’t need men to be happy, on June 5.
She wrote: “Minsan gusto din talagang lumandi at mamamsin ng lalake pero kapag naiisip ko yung mga bayarin, gusto ko pang ma-achieve para sa sarili ko, NAGIGISING ako sa KATOTOHANANG di ko kailangan ng LALAKE para sumaya. KAILANGAN ko PERA. (emoji)”
The post earned over 5,000 reactions and 300 shares on Facebook. In the over 300 comments under the post, netizens responded and commented.
One netized replied, “Haha ok kya lumandi mag mahal kong aalagaan at pag gagastohan ka wd
Another commented, “Ganyan tlaga mga isip ng mga independent women…pero kung gusto mong may taga abot nlng sayo eh mag asawa ka..ganern.”
While some opposed Bautista’s opinion, others agreed with her.
“Kaya maraming babae ang pinipili na lang magtiis sa marriage dahil hindi niya kayang maging independent. Kaya dapat may asset din ang babae para sakaling hindi maging successful ang marriage, at least secure sya hindi takot iwanan”, says one netizen.
Another user commented, “True kailangan ntin mg Work Pra mbili ntin mga bagay n gusto ntin khit wla lalaki kya kya ntin mabuhay at mging msya n wla bf o jowa.”
Bautista, later on, replied to her own post reacting to the other comments on her post. She claims that she would not let herself depend on a man, especially on finances. She argues that she wants a relationship where she’s richer than her partner.
Her comment reads:
“Bawal dito mga di kayang mabuhay walang LALAKI.”
“Papait kayo sa mga statements ko.”
“Nakakatawa yung mga comments na dapat kaya kang buhayin or wag na na kung di ikaw ang bubuhay.”
“HINDI KO YUNG HAHAYAANG MANGYARE SA AKIN. Kase di ako kailangang buhayin ng LALAKE. Una AYOKO. Kailangan mas mayaman ako sa kanya. Pangalawa kung mag aasawa ako, hindi ko kailangang maging dependent sa pera nya. NO.”
“Yuck for that mindset.”
“At hindi ako makikipagRelasyon sa WALANG PERA.“
Shortly after, Bautista released another viral Facebook post explaining her side. She still believes in love but also believes that financial stability is still significant in a relationship.
She wrote, “Don’t get me wrong, naniniwala padin ako sa Wagas na Pag-ibig. Di na nga lang ako niniwala na kaya kang buhayin ng PAG-IBIG lang. Both men and women should be financially independent and stable beforea serious relationship or marriage. BAKIT?”
Bautista further explained in her post that she doesn’t want to fight with her future partner over financial problems like expenses on a date and the like.
She also emphasized that women should be financially independent. This is because it is significantly more difficult for a woman to survive after separation if she’s financially dependent on her partner.
She concluded her post with, “Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Stability is the KEY to HAPPY inter-personal relationships whether it is ROMANTIC or PLATONIC. So, PagHANDAAN mo ang TUNAY NA PAG-IBIG!”
Her post earned over 2,000 reactionsshares on Facebook.